You didn't have to open the Lacewing server app separately. You could have done this:
Whatever condition(s) start the server
+ Start (with Lacewing.server file)
End of application
There's a Lacewing.server file in the Lacewing folder that you downloaded to get Lacewing in the first place. You would have made sure that the file is kept in the same folder as the game and loaded the file Apppath$+Lacewing.server or even better, use the Binary object, embed the file into the game's binary, and extract it and load it during play. That way it couldn't even get lost accidentally.
Of course, that's just me being lazy and late to the party.